yes you should feel guilty. This situation was wrong and you need to fess up to your husband. You wouldn't be questioning if you should or not if you really believe you did no wrong. Your husband has a right to know if you have an honest marriage and you will have to suffer the consequences whatever they may be as the fall out to what happened.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

First, Don't even think that it's your fault because you found yourself in a room alone with him. You were with his wife and she took off -- that's not your fault. How could you have orchestrated this situation? :You didn't have control over anyone else but yourself. In hindsight, maybe you should have excused yourself back to the party once you were alone with him -- but I understand why you didn't. He was orchestrating the situtation and manipulating you. He opens up to you, cries a bit... you felt sorry for him, you gave him a hug. Big deal! HE is the creep in the situation. You were not "asking" for it. Please don't think poorly or second guess yourself. Your boss is in the wrong and that's it.

Whether or not you tell your husband, I think, depends on your husband's temperament. Your conscious is clear that you didn't do anything wrong (or should be). What I would do is write down everything that happened and get it notorized - and keep it safe (so if he does find out later then you have proof with a date that you're not hiding anything from him cause you did anything wrong). I know, if I told my husband, he might go to work and beat the guy up - getting himself fired and maybe even a lawsuit. That doesn't help anyone. My husband would feel the need to defend his "honor." If you feel that uncomfortable about it, you could bring it up with human resources maybe. Or just let it go. But realistically,. what could your husband gain by knowing. In the future, steer clear of this guy, give him mean looks if you get the chance so he knows that he is not wanted in any way, shape or form. If it happens again, then I'd go to human resources and report him and tell your husband that that is what you plan on doing (so he won't feel the need to "defend" his honor).

Good luck! And don't make anyone make you feel bad. I don't care how you were dressed or how many drinks you had, that doesn't give your boss any excuse to plant one on you.

I think you should tell your husband, b/c he will likely sense that something is amiss....and you don't want something like this to come between you.

Boy oh boy, this is complicated! If you tell your husband, which I think you should do. Then he will be mad at his boss. If he confronts his boss, he could get fired. However, I think the relationship between you and your husband is more lasting and important. I beleive a husband and wife relationship should be an open book. So, get it off your chest, come clean, and clear your guilty consience.

I guess its true I would not have gotten into this situation with some ugly guy. And when I hugged him I knew it was a bad idea and maybe was kind of thinking I'd do it anyway. I dont know. I guess its just good that it ended as abruptly.

as i'm on day 80 + of the 365 day plan this should not be so interesting to me but I have to admit it is

how cute is he?

seriously - let this be one for your mental rolodex and never speak of it again

be good to your hubs

Wow. Sorry to say this but I don't believe there are accidents. Don't you think you kind of allowed this situation to happen or maybe wanted it to? Cocktails. Alone with another guy.

Come clean girl. Is he cuter than your husband?

This was not a fluke and it is my guess you will wind up in some situation with this guy again soon. If you thought it was nothing and something you could laugh off you would not have taken the time to post this on a public website.