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Sexting, Seduction and Spring Breaks

I just read this article by Chuck Norris. My kids are too young for this and don't have cell phones, but anyone with older children needs to read this and keep an eye out to protect your kids.

Sexting, Seduction and Spring Breaks

by Chuck Norris

03/18/2009

Sending nude photos and sexual videos via cell phone (called "sexting") is a fast-growing and dangerous trend among youths. And with spring breaks upon us, YouTube won't be the only one streaming videos during these juvenile siestas. Sexting is not new, but it is on the rise. Cases are bubbling up all over the country. Just this past week in Virginia, at least two Spotsylvania County students were facing child pornography charges in a sexting case. The naked images of three girls (including an elementary-school student) were discovered on seven phones and traced back to the two accused students. Last month, high-school girls in Greensburg, Pa., also were charged with child pornography after they sent semi-nude photos of themselves to male classmates.

Other similar incidents have resulted in charges in Ohio, Kentucky, Wisconsin, Georgia and Florida. Law enforcement has been called out recently to investigate sexting-related crimes by dozens of teens in many states across the nation. And sexting is not just a male-dominant problem. A new national survey says that at least one-fifth of all youths have sent nude or explicit photos or videos of themselves via cell phone or have posted such images online. Most astonishing, sexting is becoming a normative part of the dating scene and protocol among youngsters. Marian Merritt, who is Symantec's Internet safety advocate, writes and speaks about issues impacting the online security and safety of kids and families. She writes: "Teens believe taking and sharing the sexy photo of themselves is a natural progression point in a romantic relationship. It's not just 'step 1, hold hands; step 2, kiss'. Now it's 'step 1. Friend on social network; step 2. Chat on IM or text; 3. Send sexy photos.' Crazy!" So who's responsible? That's easy. First, there's the juvenile committing the crime. But there are two other culprits, as well -- accomplices to these acts. Who's providing the electronic devices? Who pays the phone bills? Whose names are on the plans? And what examples are these guardians setting as those who frown upon pornography? And thirdly, there's a culture that is moving away from moral absolutes, and that includes calling pornography wrong and even a sin. So are your kids or grandkids involved in or at risk of sexting? Are they practicing safe cell phoning? Merritt advises parents and guardians to ask their kids these five questions to protect them from this latest strain of cyberporn: "1. Give me a tour of your cell phone. Any cool features or tricks you can do with your cell phone? "2. Show me how you take a photo with the phone. How do you send it to another email or phone? "3. Where do you save the photos? Show me what you've got saved. … "4. Has anyone ever sent or shown you a sexy photo of themselves or someone else? "5. Anyone ever asked for your photo? If yes, how did you handle it? If no, what would you do and why?" How can we stop a sexting proliferation? First, parents no longer should pass out cell phones like pancakes to their families, and parents should monitor how the phones are used. Guardians need to reconsider purchasing cell phones for communication and security when children are using them for seduction and porn. Teens need to be educated about sexual illegalities and immoralities and reminded that if convicted of child pornography crimes, they could face felony consequences and see the words "sex offender" on their juvenile records. We might live in a technological wonderland, but that doesn't mean it's good to eat from all of its fruits. Most especially, we never should throw up our hands in surrender to marketing and peer pressure to give our kids everything the Joneses have, especially when those things expose them to others' exposing themselves. As a wise man said many centuries ago (well, sort of), "If your cell phone causes you to stumble, cut it off from your family's communication plan." It's time not only to answer the question "do you know where your kids are this spring break?" but also to know what they're doing with their cell phones.

Posted: March 19, 2009
By: Carpediemptf

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This problem is definitely on the rise and parents should be aware of the things happening to their kids expecially at school as well on social networking sites. Disciplining them will be difficult but worth it in order to keep them safe.

hyunnie07 | January 5, 2012 | reply


I work for a child serving agency and a co-worker was interviewing a 6th grade girl yesterday at her school. During the interview she saw two girls walk by holding hands in a very intimate way and asked the girl "what's that about" and she replied "oh, they're just lesbians" the girls in question were also in the 6th grade. My co-worker asked her if she knew what "lesbian meant" and she " yeah I do, most of the girls in my school are either lesbian or Bi, but its more popular to by Bi" my co-worker then asked "why" her response was " because boys like you when you kiss other girls." I live in a relatively small town in Texas and this was a shock to everyone who works at my agency. I have two daughters an 8 year old and a 3 year old, and all of the oversexualization of our children scares the crap out of me. Children are being exopsed to sex ( and not just the birds and bees kinda stuff but explicit sex) way too early and as a consequence are HAVING sex way too early. Children are having sex before they hit puberty........which begs the question "why". They're not even producing hormones that make them want to have sex yet, so why are they doing it?

Tawnya | April 24, 2009 | reply


Wow. That is some seriously scary news. What is the world coming to? What happened to innocence? Our kids are exposed to way too much at way too early of an age. They don't have any clue about the consequences this type of behavior has on their minds at such an early age.

Carpediemptf | April 28, 2009 | reply


Thanks for the tip on the American Teen movie. Though my kids are a ways off from the teen years, I will watch the movie.

With all the communication mediums available to these teens (facebook, myspace, twitter, texting, etc.) these kids are being exposed to the temptation to be "detached" from the communications they are involved in. In other words they are exposed to having "relationships" with people they hardly know where both parties are often creating a persona to the other that is far from reality. Because they are not face to face with the person, they can pretend to be someone they really are not and kind of live in a fantasy world with that person through these communications. It is very important that we as parents have our eyes wide open to this and keep touching (= being involved) our kids daily and keeping them grounded in reality and being true to his/herself.

When you are involved in your kids lives and are doing things together as a family regularly, you can keep a lot of this from happening. ALWAYS KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN AND NEVER ASSUME THAT YOUR KIDS ARE NOT CAPABLE OF DOING THESE THINGS.

Carpediemptf | March 20, 2009 | reply


This is scary stuff (and as the mother of a teenage girl, I can tell you it's not a joke). I watched the movie "American Teen" with my daughter and it opened up a lot of discussions for us about the social situations kids are facing now. It's a different world than when we were kids (we all hear this over and over again, but it's really true--think about it, we didn't have cell phones, we had limited or no access to computers, there was no e-mail, IMing, text messaging, etc. The worst we could do was prank call each other since there was no caller ID).

If you haven't seen "American Teen", I would check it out. If you have kids younger than 13 or so, you may want to watch it on your own first and then decide if you feel it's time for your kids to see it. I would not have felt comfortable with my younger kids watching that, but definitely felt like it was important that my 14 year old daughter and I watched it together.

You can see more info about it online at www.americanteenthemovie.com/

Snappydoodle | March 19, 2009 | reply


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