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I don't get good vibes from my son's first grade teacher.

My son is in first grade. He's a very bright child who attended a gifted program in the city. We moved out to the burbs and the teacher was complaining on how my son was an "aloof" in class. I explained to her (nicely) his back ground and how he read 4 yrs old, ( was already reading at third grade level). I am not sure if bc my son was very quiet she was not very fond of him. It's a mothers intuition. I just felt her being very different w/ him. He has another month and he's done w. her but I just feel so bad for my child b/c he senses she is not very sweet or laughs at his jokes. How does a parent deal w/ this?
Posted: May 3, 2009
By: abby1224

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I can relate. We had a first grade teacher that was very difficult and had a negative attitude about a lot of things. We used this opportunity to teach our son how even grown ups make mistakes and the importance of being proud of who you are and confident in your abilities. Make sure that he is aware that you feel differently than his teacher and show him your love. Good luck! I would also say that you should address it with the principal and if you don't see a change I would consider looking for a different school.

mommacalderon | September 22, 2009 | reply


I'd homeschool.

Tastybaby | May 26, 2009 | reply


In my opinion, stay positive to your child even around and about the teacher. Remind him how wonderful he is and contiously lift him up with praise. :D All children like that.

Annot | May 8, 2009 | reply


Thank you so much! I actually did speak with the teacher ( in the begining of the school year)about his background. However, her words were"she doesn't see he's gifted" and how she expected him to know everything?! Obviously, she has a lot to learn about gifted children. I think maybe because he's less out spoken than most of the kids in the class she under estimates him.

With that said, she's aware of his reading skills way above his level(third) and math but yet doesn't see his talents. I even mentioned how new everything is to him and how he just needs to adjust to it all. I was very nice about talking to her and didn't want to seem as if "my child if gifted". His report cards are excellent and I hope next year his teachers are a lot more understanding if not, I will have to take it up with the principal. Thanks for your advice!

abby1224 | May 6, 2009 | reply


I don't think there is anything wrong with having an amicable meeting with the teacher and giving her a clear history of your son's previous education and his abilities along with what has worked best to engage him. I also think you can share your observations of how your son is reacting to his new environment in her class this year. Hopefully the teacher will respond in a positive way. Make sure for next year, if you have any say on which teacher he gets, that you investigate all the teachers and give your preference. Some schools will take into consideration your desire for a specific teacher or it will at least influence their decision.

Carpediemptf | May 4, 2009 | reply


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